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Respect??

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My children don’t like me very much. I know that but it’s alright. They’ll come round when they’re past 18″. These were the words of a mother of three boys who had a firm grip on her children. She said this to another set of parents who were asking for help with parenting their two tween children.  ‘We have tried being their buddies but it seems to backfire nine out of ten times’. They were genuinely not sure what to do and asked for the opinion of this firm mother with flushed and embarrassed faces. They said they noticed her children seemed to respect her.

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Fruits that keep giving

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It’s a been a minute since I last wrote to you. But I’m glad I am able to do that now. I hope you have been well.

I thought to share what I have written below with you. I hope you enjoy it.

Fruits are always evident in the lives of people.  Therefore, whatever seed we sow as parents will be more evident and publicly displayed in the lives of our children.

So, I have been toying with the idea of a contrast between raising/rearing and training children. Read more “Fruits that keep giving”

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WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR LESS?

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  • Have you ever reached for something?
  • How high did you have to reach?
  • Do you think you reached too high?
  • Did you eventually reach it? 

Sometimes we do not reach our goals nor do we see our dreams materialise because of the fear of the unknown or better still the fear of being unprotected outside our bubbles and comfort zones. It seems like we are unable to survive outside our regular, known and comfortable environment so we begin to reshape and readjust our dreams and goals. Read more “WOULD YOU SETTLE FOR LESS?”

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The Real Deal

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YOUR CHILD AND SELF IMAGE

There is a new word out these days. You might have heard it. I know I have. It has really got me thinking and looking back in retrospect.

It is the message of Authenticity.  The message of being real, first with yourself and making sure people around you know who you are after you have come to love and accept yourself.

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Setting Boundaries: A few things your child can benefit from them.

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Do you remember scurrying to your room if you were downstairs watching TV after 9pm, and you suddenly heard the horn on daddy’s car at the gate? I’ll leave you to laugh that off.

There was a rule and there was a boundary: You were to be in bed by 9 pm and if you crossed the line, you got whatever was coming to you!

dictionary.com describes a boundary as something that indicates the limit to something. Read more

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HOW MUCH CREATIVITY IS LEFT IN YOUR CHILD?

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It is said that Creative Development is the process of growing/developing creative abilities through exploration, decision – making, and expression. Studies tell us that Children will experience or go through this  development at different stages in their lives.

Research also tells us that ninety percent of five-year-olds are highly creative. However, by the age of ten there’s only thirty percent of them left that are creative. Shocking! Even more alarming is the fact that by the time they reach adulthood there is only two percent of creative people left.

So what happens between the age of six and ten?  Creativity

 

 

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How often do you throw tantrums?

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During the course of the week, my almost 3year old has been displaying certain behaviours. My children are well behaved, and I am usually on top of proper and good manners. When I think of unacceptable behaviour, I think of unacceptable dressing. Of course, this is relative, as what is acceptable to me may not be generally acceptable.
So after dropping her big sister off at school in the morning for the most part fo this week, she would decide that she is not coming with me. See me see trouble! Read more

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Autopilot?

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Have you ever peered through the cockpit of an aircraft to see how pilots fly a plane? They can manually fly the plane by taking the controls and steering the aircraft in the right direction for many miles. After a while, the Pilot may decide to tell the plane where to go by activating the autopilot. He or she is constantly watching, just in case something goes wrong with the controls thereby affecting the flight or the plane.  Ultimately, this pilot is in control of that plane.

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Sizing up your arrows

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When an archer plans to shoot an arrow, he looks into his quiver and searches for one that he thinks would hit the target he is aiming for. While he is at it, he is looking for a lighter, slimmer arrow that can gain speed quickly. He would neglect the short and heavier arrows because he does not think that they have the potential to go very far.

As archers(parents) sometimes we find ourselves doing the same thing with our arrows( children). We size them up before we make plans to shoot them. We sometimes cannot see beyond the now and what the child is still working at. We exhibit this in different ways.  Read more